Be A Goddess: Lesson Ten

Merry Meet and Welcome to you magickal souls!!!!

It's time to share my experience of the tenth lesson within Francesca De Grandis' "Be A Goddess" book/course. It was titled "Don't Be Lonely" and it was all about getting in contact with self, God(s) and Goddess(es).

First, a second grounding exercise was presented that had two parts that could be done together or separately depending on what I felt was appropriate for the time and circumstances. It's different to be given the autonomy to make decisions for myself as it's not an experience I had when I was younger. But it was a pleasant experience which I think has made this whole continuing adventure better than I thought it would be.

This grounding exercise was all about not feeling lonely, as I felt more connected to the world around me, as well as to the God and Goddess, after doing it the first time. It reinforced the premise that everyone and everything (plant, animal and deity) are all interconnected.

Just as the God and Goddess are connected and One, so too am I with Them. I am the physical embodiment of Them on this planet, just as everyone else is. So I am connected with the God in His own right, and again with the Goddess in Her own right.

After this grounding, there was a re-affirmation that self-acceptance is part of this whole journey. But it is a journey in and of itself because I am in the process of unlearning judging myself, as most of us were taught to do as children, and instead replace those lessons with how to accept myself, as well as the healthy responses my body gives me.

As I am a physical embodiment of the Goddess, my body can show or tell me when something is right for me. An example of this is when my body tells me that I need to rest and I am unable to do anything until after I have rested (or more accurately, napped) for a short while. Or when I know I need to eat but I don't fancy cooking a meal from scratch so I check my freezer to discover some bolognese portions that I made previously and could have with minimal effort as they don't need a long time to defrost.

I will admit that every time I haven't listen to the messages my own body has given me, something hasn't worked out for me. A recent example is when I didn't even want to cook some fried eggs but it was what I had decided to do so that's what I was determined to cook. I overcooked my eggs (one out of the four I cooked had a runny yolk) but it wasn't until the next day when I realised I could have had a couple of cereal bars instead.

Anyway, the point is that I hadn't listened to my body and what I wanted to do went wrong. It is something that I am trying to improve on. However as I am human, I am flawed and imperfect but I accept that it is how I am.

Another recent experience is how I was forcibly told that I needed to be submissive towards men and stick to my "place in life", which to the person with these opinions meant cleaning, cooking and having children. I do not see submission as something that is necessary to my life, nor is it something I would emulate because I was forced into submission as a child and any adult since I escaped that situation who has tried to get me to submit and lose my autonomy has been removed from my life.

Being so adamant and determined not to lose my autonomy and submit to the wishes and will of others is a message in itself. It's tied to my emotions which can also hold a lot of messages. When I become angry, lose my patience or just get frustrated with something, I am being shown that it is something I need to work on. Whether that is being more tolerant, more patient or just that it isn't something I should be doing in that moment, I do need to start working on listening more. It is only through this Lesson that I realised my emotions can also be like my body and hold messages I should pay attention to.

I am on the road to a greater sense of self-acceptance where I love myself for who I am entirely but I do know that I do still have work to do on this. Self-love isn't just taking the time to do physical things to show love, like having a long and luxurious bath, eating my favourite meal or an activity that I thoroughly enjoy. It's also being kind within myself, like not putting myself under pressure to do certain things and not being flexible with what I can actually do. Or even giving myself space and time to just be, without any kind of expectation.

The last part of this Lesson reiterated that the God and Goddess live within me so they are in constant communication with me, through my body and my emotions, as well as through external mediums (like animals and birds). Because of this, I don't need to subscribe to the idea that I have to do any kind of elaborate and over-the-top rituals in order to connect with the God and Goddess.

Admittedly this was a much shorter Lesson than I was expecting but it still hit deep for me. It confirmed that all the work I have been doing to not put pressure on myself to achieve certain things or be a particular way. I spent so much time during my formative years being compared to classmates, my mum and even my closest friend that I always felt I wasn't good enough as I was.

There is still room for improvement with some of what was covered in this Lesson but it is something I will continue to work on as I continue with my journey. It's definitely nice to feel that I am not alone and that the Goddess and God are as much a part of me as I am of them.

I hope this helps you with your own journeys. I would recommend acquiring your own copy of "Be A Goddess" by Francesca De Grandis if you'd like to experience this for yourself.

Peace and love to all!!!!