Be A Goddess: Lesson Thirteen

Merry Meet and Welcome to you magickal souls!!!!

It's time to write about my experiences and thoughts while reading Lesson Thirteen: A Cup of Love.

It really was all about how love (and sex) are at the heart of creation and therefore at the centre of life. There are some things I disagree with as I am asexual and don't really feel sexually attracted to anyone very often. The act of sex serves a purpose but isn't a fundamental part of what I look for in a relationship.

Anyway, romance can influence people for good or otherwise. This is why it is a good idea to apply the care for mundane things to love spells. They are among the most natural, happiest and most sacred of spells.

A Witch's spirituality should be down-to-earth and grounded. Having a healthy fear of and respect for power is doubly important when it comes to love spells.

Romance can cloud both the mind and the heart, to the point that it can be easy to forget that love magick needs the same considerations as other spells.

Francesca posed some questions within this chapter that I would like to answer honestly here.

Do I consider myself unworthy of love? If so, why? Honestly, no because I know I am worthy of love but that love doesn't mean I have to accept being mistreated, disrespected or like I have no say in my own life. I was never unworthy of love, despite how I was treated as a child. This is something I have had to learn over the last 18 years but I have found love, within and utside of myself.

Do I think that having someone in my life means I won't have to be responsible for my own life? No! It's my life and so it is my responsibility. I don't have to hand over the reins of my life to someone else just because I am romantically (and sexually) involved with them. In this instance, and to me, responsibility means that I am the one in control and I am the one who holds the power.

What beliefs, fears and behavious have kept me from fulfilling experiences with someone in the past? It may have been that I didn't believe I was worthy of love so I took what I could from wherever I could. I may have feared truly letting someone into my life because I didn't want to lose the control that I had fought so hard for.

Do I believe it is wrong to strongly want sexual fulfillment? (Adding my own edit of the opposite) It isn't wrong. It is perfectly natural to want that. Just as it is perfectly natural to feel the opposite.

Real passion comes from self-respect, randiness and a need to give. Even without a desire for sexual fulfillment, I can still be filled with real passion. But it isn't the same as compulsion which is when I might be driven by an emptiness only I can fill. This is fueled by low self-esteem, a lack of self-nurturing, and addiction.

Love and/or magick shouldn't be fake. This is because emotions should be faced, especially anger, fear and hate. It's okay to admit that we feel them, or even to embrace them if that is how we can find love within.

It isn't necessary to be perfect or look for perfection to gain the love of the Godds; we just need to be our own individual selves. The same is true when considering doing love spells, or any spells for that matter.

It is always good to ask honest questions around whether you really want the goal of a spell or not. It is also good not to assume that a spell hasn't worked if the results weren't as quick as you want or what you wanted. This is because magick (and love) have their own schedule.

This was a really thought-provoking Lesson and I really enjoyed this one. Knowing and truly realising that I am worthy of love was the biggest takeaway from this.

I hope it inspires you to share your own experiences of this Lesson if you've got your own copy of "Be A Goddess", or to acquire one if not.

Peace and love to all!!!!